Comments on: How to date a Ugandan

By: bida

bida — Sat, 30 Dec 2023 22:21:09 +0000

This could be the second time I’ve read this article in a space of some years.
Some of the comments from non-ugandan ladies praising Ugandan men and yet at the same time having caution stemming from the ways of the men makes me think that you should also write about Ugandan culture, especially about how in most tribes, we are raised to be gentle, caring and to never disappoint people; we are raised not to be deliverers of bad news/misfortune. As a result if we are ever to do those things, we tend to gently and ‘politely’ disappoint a person such that we don’t really burn our bridges with a very hot fire. The story of the dude with a girlfriend telling the lady that he can’t leave his girlfriend but still loves this one he just met at the airport is a classic example of him not wanting to tell her that he would naturally want to sleep with her without her expecting him to leave his woman. He wants the bridge to stay intact perhaps for a continuous relationship while he has his girlfriend to whom he’s devoted. The story of the lady to whom all manner of lies have been told and yet the man is very good to her is one of those things that show you a person’s character showing through what our culture trains him to be as a person. We are raised to be gentle, respectful, caring and to protect but if a guy also lies and cheats, the poor lady shall get a gentle, respectful, caring, lying, protective cheating man. Our cultural training also demands that a man works to satisfy his woman in all aspects of life (including and especially in the bed and sometimes that confuses a woman who might see a chap ‘delivering exceptionally on all fronts’ like a very dedicated person would do and yet at the same time lying and cheating)
With that said, like amongst all the people of the earth most ‘Apples’ are good, the bad ones are few: Ugandan men are good men. The women are exceptionally good because of the cultural emphasis on raising them to be gentle, humble and exceptional in some essential aspects of life

By: the muzungu

the muzungu — Sun, 24 Dec 2023 08:52:18 +0000

In reply to NINSIMA DAN. Thanks for your comments, Dan. Always interesting to read how different cultures approach the issue of relationships. In Europe, we do things very differently. It is up to the individual to choose who s/he wants to marry / partner with. Of course, we hope our partners get on well with our family but we believe that it's not for the family to decide who should marry who.

By: OLANYA BENARD

OLANYA BENARD — Tue, 19 Dec 2023 00:16:06 +0000

In reply to Chloe. Oh seriously that is bad..any way am Benard Olanya from Uganda Northern Region that is Gulu city...I would love to be with loving and caring white woman, this is my WhatsApp number [removed by admin in order to protect you]. am 28 years old now.

By: NINSIMA DAN

NINSIMA DAN — Fri, 24 Nov 2023 06:49:11 +0000

One day I was choosing a marriage material partner but I moved around through all my dearest friends but there was none funny enough some are used to tell me that if a man is not outgoing can’t marry him it gives me more knowledge on how to choose a partner, according to me or my experience relationship depends on how you choose, what you choose and again how you choose your partner will also determine your relationship

By: NINSIMA DAN

NINSIMA DAN — Fri, 24 Nov 2023 06:32:36 +0000

In this! What is relationship? according to me relationship is having a partner may either be sexual or not but under friendly basis, in we the westerners we respect relationship mostly to those already reached in our parents hands because we fear shaming our parents of which it may be too expensive for other tribes. For example like our family respect of you choose your life sexual partner you take her back to your mother home for introduction, once you announce to your family that you got a partner the whole family, relatives, neighbors and friends will gather so there are some people who don’t disappoint according to their aim of choosing you to their partners

By: the muzungu

the muzungu — Fri, 02 Dec 2022 11:00:14 +0000

In reply to Clint Guy. I definitely met the wrong guys - you're right about that!

By: Clint Guy

Clint Guy — Tue, 29 Nov 2022 05:55:37 +0000

In reply to Daniel. Ideally , it's just probably unfortunate that u met the kind of men u dated, but like in every country , dating has always been of free will, u date who u choose and who u desire, about being opportunists, I would say it depends on statue of the man u meet, u meet someone broke , definitely he would wanna settle with a white woman hoping for a meal ticket, u meet someone well furnished financially ,that probably wouldn't be the case ,so all this story about Ugandan men dating white women for financial gain ,I totally disagree considering am Ugandan being very objective here

By: the muzungu

the muzungu — Sun, 23 Oct 2022 08:44:53 +0000

In reply to Kato the Ugandan man. Hi Kato I have lived in Uganda for over 10 years and everything I share is based on my own personal experience. Of course it does not apply to all Africans or all Ugandans. What a ridiculous suggestion. If you want to know more about my work, please check out my Facebook page which has a lively, engaged and very positive community of mostly Ugandans. It's interesting that you found this post. You must've been looking for an online date. Wishing you all the best. It's a jungle out there...

By: Kato the Ugandan man

Kato the Ugandan man — Sat, 22 Oct 2022 18:22:27 +0000

Muzungu: Is this your opinion of Ugandan men and Africans in general ? In your writing, I only find prejudice, superiority complexes, and the reinforcement of negative stereotypes. What makes you believe that the treatment of white women/(or)you by some rogue men in Uganda or East Africa differs from the treatment of other women regardless of nationality? You seem to imply that you are a unique species, and that all these men want are your pounds or some sort of greencard ? a very narrow reflection.
Let me tell you, THEY, TOO, HAVE STANDARDS. If that is how you enter every relationship, it should come as no surprise that you have one too many in and out.

By: the muzungu

the muzungu — Mon, 10 Oct 2022 19:04:44 +0000

In reply to HENRY.

I can understand a woman wanting a man who can give her financial security, but that’s not necessarily the same as “wanting money and cars.”
I agree that women should think of accepting a man they have feelings for but “later there will be development” how does that work?